We expect some of the same things around Christmas: the same message, the same songs, the familiar traditions of it all. We still have to work to prepare the way of the Lord. For my family, this Christmas is different. Advent is different. Pregnancy has made it so, and I have come to understand that Advent is very much like pregnancy. Let me explain.
First, Advent is pregnant with hope. I am a visual representation. A baby is full of potential and possibilities. There is so much hope for the future, as we dream about what this child will be like and realizing that she may be nothing like what we are thinking she will be. What are you hoping for this Christmas? If you’re hoping for presents under the tree, it might not be the same as last year? Hoping for perfection, probably be disappointed? Hoping for something different? A Christmas miracle of healing? Meaning?
Even as we are full of hope this Advent, we have to manage our expectations to know what is realistic so that we are not disappointed. It did not take too long after we learned about this baby for me to learn that pregnancy is not all fun and games. It is a painful, annoying, stressful, fun, exciting, awesome, amazing experience. Some pregnancies are happier than others…too many involve sickness, complications, relationship issues, etc. People have been overwhelmingly joyful at our news. Strangers come up and talk to me. It monopolizes many everyday conversations. It is a common experience that binds us together. Pregnancy is a long time, for others not long enough. It provides a range of emotions: fear, joy, excitement, nervousness, illness, and tiredness. Advent offers a range of emotions too. There’s the joy, excitement, and nervousness about how it will all come together, and tiredness from doing it all. I think Advent can be summed up by that line in the Christmas carol, “the hopes and fears of all the years are met in thee tonight” from O Little Town of Bethlehem. The waiting gives us time to experience all the hopes and fears of both pregnancy and Advent.
Secondly, Advent, like pregnancy, is not all about you. This pregnancy seems to be all about me right now. I have never been asked how I’m feeling so often. Never have so many strangers been interested in me, and in touching my belly, and sharing their good and bad pregnancy and delivery stories. But it is not all about me; it is much more about this baby. Even before we learned our good news, I had started taking folic acid to prevent birth defects and scaled back on caffeine. Once we found out, I really worked on my diet and eating healthier and started taking prenatal vitamins. It didn’t take very long for me to realize that I was no longer in charge of my body. This little baby has a lot to say about when I sleep or not, when I eat, and how much energy I have. My life, my daily routine, has changed dramatically because it’s no longer all about me. With Advent, it is also easy to think it is all about us. We have so much to do. We have so many gifts left to buy and wrap. We have to write our Christmas cards. We focus on OUR waiting/preparations rather than on Christ’s coming. We focus on our hopes rather than on the hope of Christ.
John the Baptist knew that it was not all about him. He was clear on his identity, who he was and who he wasn’t. In the Gospel reading, we hear that John the Baptist did not give the answers that the leaders were hoping for. They wanted him to be all these things, (Elijah, the Messiah) but all he would admit to being was a voice in the wilderness. He came to testify to the light, but he was not the light himself. In other Gospels we can read more about John’s own miraculous birth, what he wore and ate, and more about his ministry. But here, the main point is John’s identity. “I AM NOT” the Messiah….what he isn’t. In Advent, we have to take care to not get a Messiah complex: so busy trying to be all things to all people. Scurrying in Advent instead of waiting is dangerous.
John the Baptist came to testify to the light: Christmas is not about the tree and presents, but those are just a way to point to the gift of Jesus. Or, maybe they become distractions so we don’t have to see the homeless, the hurting, the hungry. We have to remember our identity as Christians, the reason for the season, to restore justice, and release the oppressed this Advent. This season is all about Jesus, and celebrating Jesus’ birthday. We should be giving Jesus gifts by giving meaning to all his children by sharing the Good News of Christ.
Finally, Advent, like pregnancy, should not be rushed because it happens too quickly anyway. We can’t skip ahead to Christmas, or we are missing out. Similarly, those expecting have to enjoy the adventure and not wish it away. As much as I want to meet this little girl, I also want enjoy the adventure of being pregnant. It is a miracle, and an awesome experience to think that there is a baby in my tummy. What a gift from God! I receive a daily email from a site that gives me an update on the baby’s size, explaining what is going on with my body, and other hints and tips. I love that email, each day and it reminds me of opening a little window in an Advent calendar. It’s just another peek into what is coming, a hint at the whole picture. Every day you get a little closer.
My prayer for all of us this Advent is that we experience it as a joyful journey. May we all keep our eyes open to hopeful signs this Advent season. In the name of the one whose coming is worth waiting for, Amen.
Photo by Esparta Palma, http://www.flickr.com/photos/esparta/4482887906/ March 27, 2010. Used by permission of Creative Common License 2.0.