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A Curse Word and A Cocktail

I swiped left after left. Conflicting political understandings. Anti-religion. Doesn’t like cats. I definitely swiped left more than right. The swipe right list is not long, but it has weight. A message popped up from a mutual match. He quoted Bret Easton Ellis when he found out I was from Los Angeles, which made me […]

Ask a YCW: Dating While Ordained Edition

Dear Askie, I’m a young clergy woman, starting out in my first call. I’m single, and thinking about jumping back into the dating world now that I’m settled in my new location. I’m worried, though, that it might be a bit weird dating now that I’m a pastor. How will potential dates react when they […]

Giving Online Dating a Try

It’s no secret that dating is hard. As women, we’re still trying to achieve equal pay in the workforce, so dating can often take a back burner to work. For clergywomen, dating seems to be especially difficult. A few years ago, I began to notice the same dating advice coming up again and again in […]

The Search

“It’s pretty much like internet dating.” This has become my standard answer when people ask me how the Presbyterian call system works. For most folks who are single or have been single in the last decade or so, the comparison always gets a laugh. For those who have been married since before the wonders and […]

Waiting for Cupid

“Sign up for Match!” your friends said. “My friend Beth met someone on there and they’re getting married in June!” your friends said. So you did. You shelled out for the six month period, trusting you’d never need that free additional six months because you’d meet someone special right away. When the six month subscription […]

Diary of an Online Dater

Day 1 11:42PM Having procrastinated until the eleventh hour on this week’s sermon, the only thing that makes sense at this point, less than nine hours before said sermon will be preached, is to join an online dating site. Dating site X is selected, and I begin to fill out the form that will, with […]

Not What You Might Expect

After a long pause in our conversation, I suppose that he felt the need to ask another question. I was inclined toward hanging up. The conversation had been annoying thus far. I didn’t see the potential for improvement. “So, what’s your favorite movie?” It is probably best that this was a phone conversation so he couldn’t see my eyes […]