Death in the Family

Post Author: Sarah Moore

Last month, Sarah Moore wrote this lament in response to the violent attack in Manchester, England. Lament continues to be poignant every time we hear word of another act of violence against any of God’s children. This article was originally prepared for publication on the website of Cumbria Christian Learning, and is reproduced here with their permission.

note at Manchester bombing memorial

Manchester victim memorials

There has been a death in the family. As I write this, less than twenty four hours have passed since the bomb at Ariana Grande’s concert at the Manchester Arena. Twenty-two people have been confirmed dead, and an unknown number of people are injured. Social media is awash with connected stories. How a homeless man cradled a woman as she died. Ariana Grande herself tweeting a sense of feeling broken. Grande is twenty four years old; much of her following consists of young girls and women. Another article suggests that this was an attack specifically targeted at girls and women. There has been a death in the family.

There has been a death in the family. As I write this I am attending the General Assembly of the Church of Scotland. For the Church of Scotland, and for the United Reformed Church, their respective General Assemblies are the highest and final decision making bodies for their denominations. In some respects, for those Churches, it is these Assemblies who are the bishop or the archbishop rather than any individual person. This morning the Assembly received the report and debated the deliverances (this is the term the CoS use for what other bodies would call a motion or a resolution) from their Church and Society Council. The pain of the world was held before us as we reflected on what happened in Manchester along with many other national, U.K., European, and global, social and political issues. I have lived through too many of these tragic events. As I remember other bombs in other cities, in other countries, and on other continents, the creeping feeling of numbness and disbelief that humanity could treat its own so dreadfully touches me yet again. There has been a death in the family.

There has been a death in the family. Much has been written and said about how human communities and how Christian churches deal with death and tragedy. Among the most well known writing about bereavement comes from Elizabeth Kübler-Ross and her theory of five stages of grief. As a Christian minister I have presided over countless funerals where I have proclaimed the Gospel Good News of hope and resurrection trying to enable those left behind to make sense of the gap now present in their family or community. There has been a death in the family.

There has been a death in the family. The question that I am left with, again, is about why this happened? On one level, the answer is simple, someone – and someone that I choose not to hate, or label with insults – walked into the Manchester Arena and detonated an explosive device. The group styled as ‘ISIS’ have claimed responsibility. But where is God? And if there is a God, why do these things happen, and happen to children and young people who had their whole lives ahead of them?

While studying theology at university I was introduced to the biblical genre of lament. The book of Lamentations is the best known example of the style but examples can be found among the Psalms and in other places too. Lament is where a person feels and lives and expresses their anger at God. ‘Where were you?!’ might be the shout. Gone are the flowery words of many formal or official prayers and liturgies. Lament is down and dirty. Lament is where the world holds God to account. It is raw and it is angry. Lament does not pull its punches. And this is fine.

As Christian disciples we are called to be before God and each other as our whole selves. God created us as people with bodies, minds, souls, emotions and intellects. It is tempting when we come to offer God our minds in study to lose sight of the other parts of ourselves. But these are made in God’s image too. Our anger. Our pain. Our desperation. Our yearning for the world to be a better, kinder, place where justice and peace are at the centre of human community in all its forms.

There has been a death in the family. We must cry out in anger to God and shout, ‘why again?’ How many more times? Enough is enough.

Sarah Moore is a minister of the United Reformed Church, currently serving in Cumbria, England, where she serves as President of the United Reformed Church in Cumbria, England’s first ecumenical county, where the Church of England, Methodist Church, United Reformed Church, and The Salvation Army are in covenant partnership working in mission in the God for All initiative. 

In this role, Sarah also serves on the staff team of Cumbria Christian Learning, an ecumenical training organisation preparing and supporting people in lay and ordained ministries across the county of Cumbria and beyond. Sarah is also an ecumenical canon of Carlisle Cathedral and a member of the Board of Young Clergy Women International.

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