Epiphany
Post Author: Kathryn Lester-Bacon
Buford probably never paid homage to another person
in her life. Widowed young, no children, innumerable
opinions, Buford got to work and never stopped—
fixing her house, tending her garden,
building porches, painting ceilings;
climbing on ladders, rafters, scaffolding, even
into her seventies. When she finally decided
to move to the nursing home, she ordered
a motorized wheelchair, in which she became
unstoppable, even if another–slower–
resident got in her way. And when she turned 104,
she proved every day that she didn’t get that far
by being weak-willed. (Move that. Stand there. Stop
talking so loud. My hearing is fine.) Visiting
Buford was less an act of non-anxious
presence, and always more of an exercise
in following orders. Yet, one time, when I brought
my fourteen-week-old daughter to Buford’s room,
and placed her on the worn, yellow bedspread,
Buford stooped over her, as low as she could go.
And as my daughter started swinging
her small soft fists, Buford reached out,
allowing one of those squishy hands to catch her bent
knuckle, and she paused for a moment, letting
her finger be gripped by this other finger,
which had entered the world 103 years
and 10 months after hers. At this,
as flesh met flesh,
I knelt beside the bed
and bowed my head.
Kathryn is a Presbyterian pastor, serving a downtown church in Richmond, Virginia and attempting to savor life with her husband and daughter.
Image by: Kathryn Lester-Bacon
Used with permission
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