Lighting the Candles without Fitting the Mold
A few years ago, I inherited the task of assigning Advent candle lighters for our church. For as long as anyone could remember, nuclear family units had been assigned each […]
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Flying Solo
During my mid- to late-twenties, I went through a phase: Everywhere I went, I met Scottish people. I even found some in Mexico at an all-inclusive resort where my mom […]
Still the Single Rev
I was 25 when I graduated from seminary and was ordained. My first position was as a chaplain at a small college, where I was routinely mistaken for a student. […]
Failing the Bechdel Test
We were driving to my parents’ house when my sister, Lindsey, mentioned the Bechdel Test. I had never heard of it, so I had to ask what it was. “It’s […]
A Home of Her Own
I blamed the puddle on the kitchen floor on my dog Sophie, who sat, wagging her tail and gleefully chewing on her bone as I ranted about her apparent issues with appropriate […]
When a Single Rev Opts to Adopt
Interview of the Rev. Joyce Borger by the Rev. Sarah Kinney Gaventa When did you know you wanted to adopt? Was it an easy decision? Difficult? I’ve always wanted to […]
Living and Loving in Limbo
Seminary did a very good job at teaching me that it would be really hard—nay, impossible—to date anybody as a young clergywoman. “Don’t even get your hopes up,” should have been printed […]
Rumor Me This, Rumor Me That
The town was all a-twitter. The gossip network was running full force. The new pastor, they said, had a man staying in the parsonage. He had been there over a week, […]
Being Single, Being Me
I began seminary with several single classmates, but our number was significantly reduced over the three years we spent there. By senior year, it seemed like a mass headlong rush to the […]
